I’ve been thinking a lot about the buzz around two popular blogging topics: authenticity and blogging etiquette.
Last week I read Tam Style’s awesome post, Blogging Now. She summed up a lot of things that happen within the blogging community and called it like it (often) is. I was really impressed with her fearless truth-telling.
But then, in all honestly, I started looking inward. I started examining my own blogging habits.
How do I treat people online?
Do I treat people with special importance?
Am I exclusive?
These were not comfortable topics to look at. I felt immediately guilty or worried that I in some ways fell short of my ideals.
And then the idea of authenticity started popping in my head. This new buzzword has been flowing around the blogosphere like green beer will be on Thursday. Though the word authentic really means “not false or copied, genuine, real ” I have taken the word and warped it in my head to mean “being the perfect person online and offline in all circumstances.”
It’s time that I accept that if I am really to be genuinely meÂ – and authentically human – I will never be the perfect person (or blogger). It simply is not possible.
Juggling a busy schedule filled with MML, Jess LC, and my personal life, also impedes on perfection. It is good for me to have ideals around blogging and work towards them, but I need to be real about what I can do.
So it’s time to come clean.
- Though I’d like to answer all comments in emails or in the comment section, I don’t.
- Though I’d like to think that I answer all requests, emails, and comments perfectly, I don’t.
- Though I’d like to go to every blogging event that happens or I’m invited to, I don’t.
- Though I’d like to become good friends with everyone who reaches out in emails or in person via MML, I don’t.
- Though I’d like to comment more often on other blogs, I don’t.
I simply do the best I can.
- I do try to help people design lives with intention via MML.
- I do read and appreciate every comment I receive.
- I do answer every personal email via MML and Jess LC that I receive.
- (I do sometimes take a few days to answer those emails.)
- I do try to be my best self online and offline.
So thank you for listening as I finally learn and accept what it means to be authentically “me.” I hope that by being honest about my short-comings with blogging etiquette I can soothe other worried bloggers out there who also project perfection on authenticity.