Today I’d like to return back to the post It’s Not Over Yet and continue the conversation in a slightly different way. That post, which is about recognizing that we may feel like we need to be successful online rightthisverymoment, hit home for many people.
So now I’d like to propose a new way of looking at our blogs – and lives. Rather than constantly pondering whether our reach is “big enough,” we should also be looking at the depth of our actions. It is often assumed that a wider reach breeds a wider influence, but that is not always the case. Rather than constantly focusing on how fast we are growing, what if we start looking at how we are helping the people following our blogs right now?
What about finding gratitude and meaning from the fact that someone tried our recipe and added it to her recipe book for years to come? What about the person who found the perfect little black purse in your post? What about the person who wears the earrings you made to give her the confidence she needs when she interviews for a new job? What about the person who got the courage to paint her bedroom yellow after seeing how great it looked in your home? What about the person who has the courage to follow their dream thanks to you sharing your own journey to do the same?
That level of impact, I feel, is more important than statistics. That level of impact is what usually brings us to our computers each day. And although we might see a few indications of this, we can easily undervalue that depth in favor of being “popular.”
I see myself do it sometimes, and I’m sure I’m not alone.
Of course it goes without saying that popular is not a bad thing, in fact, popular can bring about more improvement in more people’s lives. But it is not everything.
Helping people should be the focus on any scale.
Further, we must look at our lives outside of blogging as well and reflect on our overall impact. We cannot hinge our self-worth on our online persona when the impact we can have in the real world is usually much deeper and lasting. A mother’s influence on her children is miles deeper than in the blogosphere, and for good reason.
Our lives and value are infinite, blog reach is just a drop in the bucket.