Happy Friday, everyone! Jen here, and I started to work with Jess a few months ago. She recently asked me if I would be interested in bringing back the Design Your Life series, I agreed, and I was so excited to get started.
Today we are going to be hearing from my first feature, Lori, blogger behind A Positive Curl. I stumbled across her blog a few weeks ago and every time I visit, she’s posting about how we can all celebrate our lives to the fullest. Her posts are honest, inviting and totally relatable. I knew she would be the perfect person to kick this series off again, and I was so glad when she agreed to participate, I know you will be too.
I don’t always wake up feeling great about myself. I have bad hair days, bad skin days, bad everything days, but I have learned that I cannot rely on those external things to feel good about myself because they can change on a day-to-day basis. What I can rely on, though, is knowing who I am. I am strong. I am beautiful. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. That knowledge gives me the courage to start my day in peace and walk through the ups and downs of life with confidence.
When my husband comes home from a long day at work, I stop what I’m doing and greet him at the door with a big hug and a huge smile. My smile conveys to him that I am happy and excited to see him, and I know that he appreciates this greatly. As important as it is to me to greet my loved ones with a smile, it’s important that I greet others with a smile as well. With people that I see at work, church or even at the grocery store, I do my best to greet them with a warm and genuine smile. A smile is a simple but powerful gesture. You never know what someone else may be going through, and your smile may be the very thing that brightens and uplifts their day.
One of my newest life intentions, and something that I try to practice every moment of every day, is to be love to the people around me. When I first thought about it, it seemed a little overwhelming. How could I possibly be love to everyone around me? But 1 Corinthians 13 shows me simple ways that I can be love to others. I can be love by being patient and kind. I can be love by not envying someone else or being jealous of what someone else may have. I can be love by not getting easily upset and not keeping a record of any wrongs done to me. I can be love by looking for the best in others, being filled with hope and persevering through every circumstance.
I have an “I-can-do-it-all-by-myself” type of personality. I very rarely ask for help because I never want to appear as if I don’t have all the answers. But the truth is that I don’t have all the answers. I never have and I never will. I am learning that there are people in my life who have already been down the road that I would like to travel on, and it would be silly of me to not ask for their help. Last summer, I had an idea for a blog but no idea where to begin. At the time, I had been following Jess Lively’s blog for a few months, and I really admired her work as a successful blogger and business woman. When I discovered that she offered one-on-one consulting, I knew that I needed to ask for her help, and I’m so thankful that I did. Jess was beyond amazing in helping to bring clarity to my jumbled thoughts and helping me find purpose in my blog, which is something that I would have never been able to do all on my own.
I have lots of “kinks” in my life – things about myself that I don’t like or wish I could change. For years, I hated my naturally curly hair. I did everything I could to hide my curls, until one day I decided that it was time to stop fighting them and begin to embrace them. I now wear my hair very big and very curly, and I love it! Learning to celebrate my hair has opened my eyes to other areas of my life that are in need of a little celebrating. I may not have beautifully toned arms like First Lady Michelle Obama, but I’m still going to rock my sleeveless shirts in the summer time. My voice may not sound like the amazingly talented Mariah Carey, but I’m still going to sing my heart out every chance I get. My height and size may not be that of a gorgeous supermodel, but I am still going to stand tall and walk with confidence, knowing that I am perfect just the way that I am. Whatever the kinks in my life may be, I’m done fighting them. It’s time to celebrate them.
Check out past DESIGN YOUR LIFE interviews.