living in my now house

June 25th, 2012   |   LifeStyle


Over the weekend Mr. Lively and I finally got to walk through our future apartment. When we signed the lease the building was still undergoing a complete renovation and could not be entered by anyone other than the construction staff.

It was pretty much a blind bet that the place would be really nice once it was complete.

However, during our apartment tour we received good and bad news.

The good news is that the apartment seems spectacular. Though it’s still definitely unfinished, the cabinets, moldings, doors, and patio all look excellent. We are really happy we went with our gut and decided to lease in the first place, sight unseen.

And we also learned that the move-in date now looks to be October 1st, instead of September 1st or 15th, as was previously speculated.

Though a few weeks or one month isn’t in the grand scheme of things a big deal, it does present some challenges and changes in regards to my current lease, getting our puppy, and my general excitement/anxiousness to move in and start living in our new home.

For a little while I was bummed out.

Yet I’ve come to realize that I now need to make a conscious intention to continue to live in my Now House (Apartment).

In my excitement for new home, I have been getting pretty antsy about my current apartment. I’m kind of feeling “over it.”

And honestly, I’ve already started seeing myself cut some corners in the current space. I get annoyed at cleaning the bathroom sink. I leave my clothes on the loveseat next to my bed more often than usual. I am getting lazy about my organization and letting small piles of clutter accumulate in corners.

I’m getting more ambivalent about my current home while daydreaming about my future one.

So while my new-found laziness in my current apartment may not seem like a big deal to many, knowing my own disposition and general type-a personality, it’s signifying that I’m phoning it in.

If I was living in my new apartment I would be cleaning everything to the max and treating it like gold. But instead, I’m starting to throw in the towel here and let things slide.

But the problem with that is that I still have three months to live in this current home.

That’s a quarter of this year.

I don’t really want to live in a home that I don’t look after for 90 days of my life.

I don’t want to spend my time living in my fantasy Future Home instead of the home I’m actually living in.

So I’m choosing to recommit to my current home, to de-clutter it, organize it, and also prepare for our move.

By caring for my current home and making sure that it doesn’t get too crowded or messy, I’m making the move and transition to the Future Home smoother, while enjoying a more tidy and beautiful space in the meantime.

One of my biggest intentions is to love and care for the place I live in. And I am choosing not to shirk that intention just because something exciting is around the corner.

I need to live in the now and the home that goes along with it.



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  • Jess, I love this! It’s very true that when we have someone new and more exciting coming (like a new place) we tend to forget to appreciate what we already have. I wrote a post recently about making the most of what we have. Great post as usual! 🙂

    P.S. I can’t wait to hear more about the puppy! 😉

  • i need to do this, but in a different way. we’re hustling every night to do our dream jobs. i’ve decided that i want to be a mom, first, and writer (blogger) second. we’re working to make that a reality. but i still have a day job at a marketing company. in planning my exit (which could take up to a year), i still have to do my job. and do it well. it’s so hard to focus when all i can think about is quitting, but it’s just not fair to the company. so here’s to living in the now, while dreaming of the future 🙂

  • Love the exposed brick.

  • A few things… 1) The new apartment DOES look amazing (great fireplace) and I can’t wait to see you in there! 2) I constantly have the problem with “future living” especially in regards to homes – I am starting to feel “over” our place even though we’re about to renew our lease for another year… luckily the memory of moving is fresh enough that it still seems like a hassle. 3) In my recognition of my constant desire to move, I just read Meghan Daum’s “Life Would Be Perfect if I Lived in That House.” While not an exact mirror image of my housing dilemmas, there was a lot of recognition as I read. When your schedule clears up, you may want to add that to your reading list! Very interesting.

  • Great realization!

    While I love living with my husband and couldn’t wait for it to start, I do wish I’d appreciated those last few months of “living alone” a little more.

    I’m not sure how neat and clean Mr. Lively is, but this is your chance to have an unsupervised OCD clean living space… maybe make the most of it by doing a photo shoot of your place now to remember!

  • Christine

    I really needed to hear this today, thank you!

  • Atta girl! Your new home will be worth the wait, I’m sure! It looks absolutely amazing!

  • That’s awesome you are so self-aware. I can’t wait to see pics of the new place, I’m especially loving the brick!

  • So true. It’s easy to get caught up in “what’s next” or how things will be in the future. I’m glad you’re taking the time to enjoy where you’re at right now. I’m working on being more mindful and appreciative of my current situation.

  • This is so true! I’m de-cluttering my space after realizing how I started to use my newborn as an excuse to be lazy.

  • Thank you for this post! My husband and I planned to build a house. We would have moved in in August. We decided several months ago to postpone building till we could pay cash. This meant moving to a cheaper apartment and a long wait ahead. Patience is hard but it will be worth it! Thanks for the reminder!

  • I definitely needed this. I’m a month to a month and a half out from moving apartments and feel “over” this one. It’s hard to not give up on the one I’m living in…to let things slide until I’m in the new place. But, who wants to live like that? Thank you for reminding me to stay true to myself and cherish this space while it’s mine.

  • I love this, not only because I’ve been there (about apartments… so much so that I lived out of boxes for months upon months, determined not to get “settled” into a place in which I didn’t see myself living for very long)… but also because it is a reminder for us all to live in the present, not the future. It’s okay to plan and to do things that will set yourself up for success in the future, but constantly dreaming about what is GOING TO happen and simultaneously resenting your present situation is just… exhausting, and setting yourself up for unhappiness.
    I needed to read this today. We just re-signed our lease (in May) but there’s a good possibility we’ll be moving across the country at the beginning of next year for my husband’s job. While I’ve spent a good amount of time daydreaming about California, the reality is, that it won’t even happen until April/May of 2013, which is a good 10 months away. So rather than daydream about that future life/home/job/etc and be frustrated with not being able to put down roots where I am, I need to live my life in the present, be happy, and do things that make me happy and that will set me up for success when (and if) we end up having to make that move. Thanks for the reminder, Jess. 🙂

  • great reminder. i am totally going through this right now.

    i recently reflected on this as we prepare to move:

  • pve

    It it true to forget to live in the present rather than always focusing on the future.
    Hope you find time to enjoy and savor some of these last moments in your spot. I do love the way your new place looks.
    How good of you to realize how important to continue to prepare for your new home
    and respect your current habitat.

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