Over the past few weeks of marriage, Mr. Lively and I have been putting a lot of thought and time into creating the foundation of our relationship. I’m happy to say we are thriving in this new chapter. But we have also had our share of disagreements as well. Not many, but a few.
During our first disagreement while married, we set a new intention for fighting.
While in the midst of an emotional rant, I found myself ending with “and we’ve only been married for a week and a half!”
Though that statement was technically true, once we resolved our fight, Mr. Lively was quick to offer a new perspective.
He suggested that we drop any reference of marriage length while arguing. If something is not right while married, something is not right while married. To him it doesn’t matter if we’ve been married a week and a half, six months, four years, or 22 years. If we had the same argument six years from now it doesn’t make what I was upset about “acceptable” because we were married longer.
So going forward if we get upset we are allowed to get upset from a place of being married. Period. We are as committed to one another now as we will be a dozen years from now. And our arguments should not be weighed against the length of our marriage at any point in time.