When I set out to start MML I did so with a clear purpose in mind; to help people discover their best selves and highest potential underneath all of their ‘stuff.’ I had learned this lesson in college and knew that if I struggled so much, others must feel the same.
At the same time as I started this site, I was also getting my own small business off the ground and I shared that process here as well. People responded to both the business aspects and personal topics on MML and I quickly felt at home in what I was doing. Jess LC and MML over a course of trial and error, became my “jam.”
Over the years, I got more and more extremely kind emails from readers worldwide that supported what I was doing to help people. I was incredibly thankful for their kindness, but what I did not expect was the word that kept bubbling up over and over:
Yes, I did set out to help people lead meaningful, fulfilling lives that served their highest purposes. But I never thought that by doing so, I would be considered inspiring.
For a long time I kept myself at bay of that word. It didn’t fit well. After all, I’m just a 20-something woman on my own journey, learning my own lessons. Just. Like. Everyone. Else.
But nevertheless, words like inspiration, unique, and special kept cropping up on conversations with others. As Jess LC grew, people looked at what I have done, and again, labeled me as special orÂ inspirational.
To be quite honest, as I took new risks, new challenges, and pushed myself further, I started to assume that those people’s words about me were true.
I started to think that I must somehow be different than other people if they see me in this way.
Which is a load of crap.
I had an epiphany yesterday that I owe to you: I’m not inspirational nor special, I’ve just gone through a lot of tough stuff and stayed true to my intentions. I am just like everyone else, we all are the same, no one is inherently separate in this world.
On my journey I have gone through a lot of shit, quite frankly. I battled against my ego controlling my weight for almost a decade. I went through therapy in college to face a lot of issues that I needed to work out. I used to hate listening to my own thoughts – I couldn’t stand being around “me.” I went through a tough, but ultimately positive break up. I had a lot of hard times.
The same is true with my business. I have cried myself to sleep after a trade show. I’ve worried about not being able to keep my business going. I had anxiety attacks worrying about cash flow. I flossed because I didn’t have the money to pay for a dental exam for three years.
What made those tough times bearable was what I did about them: I prayed (a lot). I wrote in journals frequently. I had supportive friends (and not-so-supportive friends). I read a lot of books. I worked on improving my business for 12 years. I had a business coach.
And I always asked myself the question: what is my intention?
That’s it. My main differentiator is that I’ve had the guts to constantly ask myself what my intention is, and then design my life around that intention.
Which is something every single person on Earth has the ability to do in their own lives. And every single person that people regard as “special” or “inspiring” simply have had the guts to go towards their intentions and be uncomfortable in the process.
Meaningful intentions often involve risk, faith, and perseverance. We all have those muscles. They simply need to be used.