One of the biggest things I’d like people to take away from MML is the belief that it is totally freaking okay (and normal) if you don’t know your purpose yet.
I feel like there is a sense out there that there is something wrong – especially for those in their early 20’s – if people aren’t crystal clear on their life purpose.
To be honest, sometimes I want to scream,
“It’s not that big of a deal!”
Because you know what? It’s not.
It make absolutely no difference whether you know your purpose or if you haven’t the foggiest idea.
That is totally fine.
Because from all of my own understanding of my purpose and the purposes of those around me, the truth is that life purpose is much larger (and simpler) than a career, service, or transaction.
Life purpose at it’s core is about extending love, care, and concern for others in a way that capitalizes on our unique talents and gifts.
But so often people make life purpose another word for their “career,” “job,” “business,” or other money making device. Or heck, even a volunteer or non-profit venture.
That is so not true.
Careers, jobs, charities, and inventions are the tools and channels with which we help other humans improve their lives. That is all.
The juice inside the Gusher of life purpose is the love and energy we expend helping improve other people’s lives.
So that means it makes no difference whether we know what our purpose is yet. We can still take whatever situation we are in this very moment, and transform it into part of our purpose by making sure that we are helping those around us live a better life.
We can do that in a crummy job, while in college, while staying at home with a baby, or while sitting on the bus next to a stranger.
Over time, as we help others throughout our lives we might discover – by accident even – that we are really, really good at helping people when we do x, y, or z.
Then, we can take that feedback and go a little further in that direction. And over time we might just find that we feel deeply compelled to help people in one way, or in several different ways, throughout our lifetime.
The point is that we can always be living our life purpose no matter what we are “doing” at the time.
The rest will come when we keep an open mind and heart.
Can I get an Amen?
Hopefully, some people are feeling more relaxed about their purpose search now.
(Or at least pretend to.)
And last but not least, as the title of this post promised, I wrote a column about three things to do while you are searching for your life purpose over on The Everygirl.
I love you and you will discover your purpose in time.
Let it be shown to you.