We were there exploring a job opportunity for Mr. Lively.
It all started a few weeks ago when Seattle, a city I never really thought that much about, suddenly became a possible new home for our little family. Rather than dread the idea of leaving my beloved Chicago, I was energized by the idea of moving somewhere totally new.
Without any explanation I was instantly set on moving to the city. And once we explored the awesome haunts that you all mentioned this weekend, I was more convinced than ever that a life-changing move to the PNW was exactly what we needed.
However, last night we found out that will not be happening. Instead of moving, we will be staying in Chicago and Mr. Lively will work at an awesome web company locally.
Overall, this is great news. Mr. Lively will most likely enjoy the new Chicago position more than the Seattle opportunity, and we will avoid a ton of stress that comes with moving across the country during the holidays.
However, I’m honestly still coming to terms with the fact that we are staying.
During the weeks leading up to this trip, I took my unexplainable enthusiasm to move to Seattle as a sign that it was “meant to be.” So I began to mentally and emotionally remove myself from Chicago. I was scouring Craigslist for rental homes in Seattle and was figuring out how I would restructure my career with such a blank slate.
I reveled in the idea of cutting ties with all that I’m familiar with and start fresh. I wanted to make bold moves in my career that seemed daunting to make in my current life situation. Moving was the perfect
opportunity excuse to make dramatic changes.
But today I find myself sitting in the exact same chair, in the exact same room, doing the exact same thing I did last week – when I thought I would be searching for a new place to live and writing this post as a moving announcement.
It is a surreal feeling to say the least. One which I am completely responsible for creating. I didn’t need to put that much weight on a possible move before I knew all the facts.
Now, I have two options. 1) Keep things as they were before. Or, 2) Change the things in my life and career that I wanted to change in Seattle, here in Chicago.
Rather than lean on a dramatic move to spur changes, it is up to me to either keep the status quo, or make those shifts within my daily life (which feels infinitely harder).
We expect for things to be challenging and different when something dramatic happens. But what if it doesn’t?
What if we have to face the challenges and changes right where we are?
I think this situation is one that many people can relate to. We might dream of big, bold changes to help us ascend to a new level personally. But there are many times (perhaps most times actually) when dramatic shifts must occur within a stable environment – when it might not be as simple or easy to cut free of what has been holding us back.
It is far less glamorous to “stay put” and change. It may even require us to disconnect or disappoint people in our lives.
But we always have the power to step outside of our comfort zone within a stable life situation.
Though it might be tempting to think otherwise, we don’t need to rely on external changes in order shift internally.
We can be bold right where we are.
May something wonderful happen to you today,
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