TLS #186: Things I’m afraid to tell you

Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit of a disconnect with you. And the show.

I want to change that.

So today I’m talking about things happening in my life which I have not been sharing (fully) on the show. I hope by sharing these truths – which are really just ego fears – we can be on the same page heading into 2017. I want to feel comfortable fully being who I have become as a result of all that I’ve experienced this year and share these new insights… with you.

Just by creating this podcast and putting this out there, the shadows these fears have been casting on my connection to you have already faded. The light is here once again.

It feels good to be back.

This episode is perfect for anyone who is curious about the things I’ve been afraid to share on the show in recent months.






  • The things I’ve been afraid to tell you surrounding the topics of energy, consciousness, perfection, work habits, finances, Mr. Lively, Ellie, dating, and “being relatable.”




“Things I’m afraid to tell you” post from 2012

Ez from Creature Comforts

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TLS #185: The intersection of rational mind and intuitive guidance with Erin Loechner

Erin Lochner website

Katie Dalebout Podcast


Alignment before Action episode





This Post Has 26 Comments

  1. Erin O'Donnell

    Last week I made a list of “things I am a little bit scared of” so that I could share them with my husband. It took me a while to bring them all up, because being vulnerable is hard! I love that you are doing this here.
    Do you know of a good place in Ann Arbor to find amazing chocolate bars? The ones you listed look so good, but I’m in AA not UK 🙂

  2. Missy Bush

    I just listened to this podcast and it is so interesting because my daughter and I were talking about your podcast yesterday and the changes in the last year. Thank you for this very frank discussion. We are enjoying your journey and are so interested in your discussion of flow and how that all works. I have been on a similar journey for about ten years and also work to keep what you call “flow” in my life. I believe we have read many of the same books. I am excited about this change in your podcast! I am at a very different place from you, I am 58 years old, married, a mother of two daughters and in a traditional job, but this resonates with me as well. I know that it doesn’t matter where you are in life, this is life changing. My daughters are in their twenties and are also interested and are implementing these ideas as well. Thank you for your podcast.

  3. Sarah Jane Elbert

    Thank you, Jess. Your podcast such a gift. I love surprise gifts, so… I love not knowing what the show will be before I listen. It always seems to resinate with me whenever I listen. I really enjoyed listening to you “channel and share” messages from you intuition on a past show. I am a fan and student of Esther-Hicks and I appreciate being able to join you on this journey.

    Your life IS your work, so you are technically always working…for you and for us.

    When I share you with friends and clients, I actually feel like I giving them a very special gift. Thank you for that. x

  4. Laura MacDonald

    Thank you so much for your generosity and authenticity in sharing this. What struck me was your statement that your life is amazing. I laughed a little at this because it is so obvious from each of your episodes that it is and that you are truly happy! I look forward to them each and every week because as much as I loved your interview podcasts, I love these deep, insightful messages you share even more. “Flow” and alignment have become such an important part of my life and I have you to thank for it. So, don’t worry about losing this listener, I’m all in.
    Looking forward to learning more as you continue your journey!

  5. Allison DiMaggio

    Jess, I am so excited you are going to keep following the path of energy and consciousness. It feels like a natural progression of your work and I just wanted you to know I will be continuing to look forward to everything that you have to share with us. Happy New Year!!

  6. Suzanna Miller

    Hello Jess. I am so grateful that you did this show, none that I have listened to so far have resonated with me quite as much as this one. I have been on a path to explore and understand consciousness and energy for many years, a path that intensified four years ago when my own marriage ended. The work of Abraham-Hicks was a big part of my early explorations. I’m most interested in content related to consciousness and am so glad to hear that you will be diving deeper into that arena. I was already drawn to your show, partly because I am a fellow Fizzler, partly because of the focus on intuition, but I am now even more of a fan. I also appreciate your vulnerability and honesty about all that you shared. That has been a mission of mine on my own blog, which deals with consciousness and energy in the area of sexuality–a vulnerable topic indeed. I very much look forward to what your future shows will bring.

      1. Suzanna Miller ?

        I read your longer comment to Jess and here’s hoping you appear as a guest of hers someday! I too find her path very inspiring through these early days of business infancy.

  7. AllThatGlitters

    Thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity, Jess! It’s wonderful to hear that you’re doing so well! I’m so grateful for the words you put out into the world.

  8. Maryn

    Hi Jess – I always loved your “Things I’m Afraid to Tell You” and this really hit home for me. We seem to be on similar paths and I’m grateful that you continue to share your lessons and your hurdles with the rest of us. You inspire me to keep going on this road less traveled. Look forward to checking out your course! xoxo

  9. Thanks so much for sharing so openly and so honestly, Jess. I loved listening to this podcast. I’ve long been a fan of The Lively Show and have been along for the journey as your life as changed significantly over the past two years… when I first discovered your show, I was hooked and never missed an episode, and then towards the beginning of this year (2016), I found that I’d have to catch up on shows here and there – not because I stopped enjoying the show, but I guess I just wasn’t resonating so much with what you were putting out there (I was in a very bad space myself towards the end of 2015/ beginning 2016, so I think I personally just wasn’t on the same wavelength).

    Over the past couple of months, I’ve found myself drawn into the show big time once again, and I literally did a double-take when you mentioned Abraham Hicks and consciousness, etc. I was really into The Law of Attraction and Abraham Hicks’ teachings in my early 20s, but I kinda grew out of it as time went on (read: career, marriage, baby, etc). Just yesterday I picked one of my Abraham Hicks books off my bookshelf and started reading it again, after about 8 years. So amazing that I’ve been drawn to your podcasts more and more lately, only to find that you’ve also been getting into Abraham Hicks’ teachings… if that isn’t consciousness in full force, I don’t know what is!

    Looking so forward to future shows and following along on your journey! x

  10. Wowie I LOVED this episode, Jess! As a fellow podcast host I found your vulnerability and truthfulness SO inspiring, and as a fellow person, I found how great and authentic your life is going to be inspiring as well! I’m definitely excited for this new chapter of your podcasts, man oh man my life could use more flow! <3

  11. SisterMaryAlt

    I listened to the podcast this morning – it was so awesome and inspiring! I totally get why the things you’ve been thinking have held you back and I’m so glad you did share. I can’t WAIT to see where you go with the podcast in terms of energy.
    Good for you!

  12. Michelle

    Like all the other comments on here I loved this episode! It was so nice to hear your honesty about where you’re at in your life. I think you really deserve your success, and good on you for sharing. I think too often when women are successful we are almost shamed into sharing it, like its bragging, instead of just being proud that your hard work has given you so much abundance in your life.
    Also the bit about Ellie was so brave and beautiful 🙂
    Congratulations on your success, and I look forward to seeing where your flow takes you and following you along the way.
    Thanks for your podcast, I look forward to each episode. I think you are such an inspirational person, and philosopher (if I can call you that?!) and wish you all the success you can hold. xx

  13. Laura Gaffke

    Jess, Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing ALL of this! I have always appreciated how you ALLOW yourself to expand and grow, even if feels like unknown territory. I believe we are both at a similar place in our exploration with many of the topics you mentioned and I am excited to hear more of your journey as you explore consciousness. May you continue to follow your heart, embrace and celebrate your success, and stay open to the magic of life. We all are here for “The JOY of it” right?” Thank you for being you! The world is a better place with you in it. 🙂

  14. Brandi Jaure

    Awesome podcast! Honestly I believe you are just catching up your podcast with your truly amazing life and transitions have to happen so thanks for taking us with you and being vulnerable as it truly is the best fuel for the best changes in life and work 🙂

  15. Aubrey Woolley

    Wonderful show! Just wanted to share what an inspiration this podcast was. So looking forward to the new lessons in 2017! Keep the flow going!!! ?

  16. Angela Waverly

    You’re right! People will not always be able to relate or “get you” but that’s their issue, not yours!

  17. M Honey

    To me, you are just trying to be authentic and if we each do not make that a priority, we will end up unhappy. I applaud your courage to state your truth and trust in the outcome!

  18. Valarie Percy

    I listened to the podcast on New Year’s Day, came across this verse this morning, and immediately thought of you!
    “Be not thou afraid when one is made rich, when the glory of his house is increased.” Psalm 49:16

  19. This was in incredible podcast and I’m sure you’ve touched the hearts of many more than just mine. Thank you for sharing your fears and insecurities, as they are ones I relate to. Just hearing you speak them gave me goosebumps. Keep flowing and sharing, because you are helping to change the world.

  20. Jess, I love you! Your podcast almost brought me to tears.

    I’ve been following your journey from the beginning as it always felt in alignment with me, and continues to as I also deepen into my spiritual practice. I’m so glad you hear you speaking openly about the fear to talk about deeper topics. I’m also hesitant to bring them up because it seems “uncool” to believe in anything these days. But listening to you share your fears about it, just solidified in my mind how much I need to go forward spreading my message, my insights and my wisdom. We can’t “hide our light under a bushel”, as they say. It was given to us and we should share it. Similarly, your evolution should be shared proudly and not minimized to meet the level of other’s evolution.

    I hope someday our paths will cross (I’m based out of Chicago :)) as I begin my business teaching others how to love and attract love worthy of them that I have done through my own energetic/consciousness work. The business in the works now! Hearing about your financial successes was the breath of fresh air I needed to believe that I’m not sacrificing my “stable” career by going down this path. To those who align with their intuition and inner vision, great things are possible 😉 Much love!! Perhaps some day I’ll be on your podcast 😉 hehe x

  21. You’re such an amazing person my lovely friend! There’s so much freedom in sharing all of this — you’re so brave, and I’m so excited about this year for you!!!!

  22. Kim Sutton

    Jess, you are so amazingly… brilliant! As a fellow podcaster I especially loved your honesty about connecting with your content. I discovered the Law of Attraction in late 2009, about a year before my marriage ended. While my divorce was not amicable, the Law of Attraction allowed me to be courageous and keep my wits through all the times I wondered, “What the heck am I doing!?!?”. May 2017 and beyond continue to bless you in more ways than you can imagine. Happy travels!

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