TLS #70: Turn Your Day Around & How to Say No With Alexandra Franzen

AlexandraFranzenPhoto   Today’s episode is a lively conversation with author, wordsmith, and thought leader, Alexandra Franzen.

Alexandra’s website is a go-to resource for me when it comes to finding how to say what isn’t always easy to say. She’s got a wealth of information and soul-filled guidance to share.

In today’s show we are covering a wide variety of topics including: getting the most out of our day, scheduling our calendars with intention, amazing books that have changed our lives, and saying no to people in a graceful and respectful way.

This show is perfect for anyone looking to listen to a thought-provoking conversation around ways we can live our lives deliberately and peacefully.





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  • Why Alexandra bought a house at age 24, and how she realized that home ownership wasn’t as important for her as she originally thought.
  • The message that flipped one of Alexandra’s least productive days into one of her best days of the year.
  • Why the “Today is not over yet” mentality does not necessarily mean working more.
  • I share Jonathan Field’s 3 baskets theory to help us understand how to get more out of our lives in all areas.
  • Alexandra shares the habit change that has improved her mental clarity and her writing.
  • How she approaches her fitness as a deliberate experiment.
  • What Alexandra’s next book topic will be.
  • How Alexandra transforms saying “no” into a positive experience for both people.
  • Our favorite books right now.
  • What Alexandra would tell someone just starting out on this journey



Essentialism by Greg McKeown

Less by Marc Lesser

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo

Die Empty by Todd Henry

Alexandra’s post inspired by the Martha Graham quote

PDF for The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up






This Post Has 58 Comments

  1. mom_interrupted

    Jess! You are blowing my mind with your INCREDIBLE guests lately. Way to go!
    p.s. My boyfriend lives 30 miles from me, so I have been re-listening to all Lively Show eps while I commute. What a win-win! xoxo

    1. That’s so great to hear!! I’m glad I get to keep you company while you’re driving. ; )

  2. Jenny Wise

    Loved this! Thanks so much for sharing. But most importantly… where oh where is Alexandra’s scarf/poncho from!?? 🙂

  3. Amanda Coolidge

    Great podcast! Can you make the PDF link live? Thanks 🙂

    1. Hi Amanda,

      The PDF link is a pop up window that asks for your email address to send the guide to your inbox. If you have a pop up blocker on, it might not show up for that reason. : )

      1. Jane

        Jess, I loved this episode. Thank you.
        My pop-up blocker is off and I still can’t get the PDF link to work. Is there another way to get it?

          1. Jane

            It worked! Thanks!

    1. I’m so glad this episode helped you today, Julie! That’s great to hear.

      And thank you so much for sending over the article about the Healthy Mind Platter – checking it out now! : )

  4. Sofia

    This was one of my favourite episodes. I’ve also been following Alexandra’s work for a few years (probably thanks to a link from your site) and was so happy to listen to this super inspiring interview. Thank you both for your amaaazing work! xo

    1. I’m so glad you enjoyed the episode, Sofia! I am also pumped you’re a fan of Alexandra’s site, too. : )

  5. Great episode. I’m reading The Life Change Magic of Tidying Up right now with my book club. Haven’t gotten too far into it yet but I’m a little more excited about it now! Thank you.

    1. I’m glad you enjoyed the episode! I personally loved the book, but many people find they prefer to take what resonates with them and leave the rest. If you decide to do the exfoliation the way she suggests, feel free to print out the checklist I made for you above in the post. It makes the process much easier since she doesn’t have a checklist in the book. : )

  6. SEM

    love! did you take the PDF checklist down? I can’t seem to click it.

  7. It’s the second time I’m listing to this interview, because I LOVED IT! You + Alexandra in the same place at the same time sharing superb tips! WOW! My favorite podcast, for sure! Thank you so much!

  8. Christine & Jan

    Thanks for this episode, loved it! I sent my first “No – and” email today and received a great response. Being able to help someone, even if it’s only in a small way is probably something we should all be doing more of.

  9. Such a great episode Jess! I have the “Today is not over yet” posted in my cube at the office. It brings me such joy!! I also really appreciated your comments about wrinkles, and have been struggling with how I feel about them. Your comments made me think you’d like our latest post – Thanks as always Jess!

    1. I’m so glad you’ve got it posted in your cube! Did you use the printable? Or create your own?

      Also, I loved your post. I like that you found a VBI for your approach, too. Amazing!

      1. Becca

        Printable, of course! I wanted the real thing!! Good call on the VBI – I’m not sure I thought of it in that way before, but you are so right!!

  10. Ali Edwards

    So great. Loved this one – messages I really needed to hear (again).

    1. : ) I’m glad you enjoyed it, Ali!!

      You might love Alexandra’s site, too. So much great advice.

  11. beckee

    This was a great show. “Today is not over yet” has become my mantra! It is a good reminder when you wake up and feel like you have a million things to do. It is also a great motivator when it is noon and you are still in your PJs 🙂

  12. Writing this on a sticky note, or on my forehead….It’s not my responsibility to worry about if my work is good, I just need to keep the channel clear. AMAZING.

    Also, love, love, love The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. As a self-proclaimed “minimalist”, I still had oodles to learn and purged even more “stuff!” Three big garbage bags full to be exact 🙂

    1. : ) I hope your sticky note helps you keep it in mind. I love that way of thinking about things, too. It takes so much unnecessary pressure off.

      I’m glad you enjoyed Tidying Up, too! So good.

      Have a great weekend!

  13. fran

    Hi! PLEASE have Alexandra Franzen BACK! She is wonderful- and since listening to your show with her guest episode-have been following her blog. Please bring her back in early 2016!

    1. Thanks for the suggestion, Fran! Alexandra is awesome and would make a great follow up guest. : )

  14. Carrie Kelleher

    I tried to access the PDF for Maria Kondo book but it wasn’t clickable. Can you please help?

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