TLS #152: A Lively Adventure – When You Want All of the “Answers” Right Now


This week on TLS I’m sharing the real deal: I had a pretty disorienting week. I’m feeling a bit like a fish out of water – I’m not quite sure where I belong in the world and where I’ll end up in the next few weeks, months, or years (as much as my ego would like to start gnawing on these questions and answers now).

In the episode, I’ll be sharing what I’ve learned from this fuzzy period so far, and how we can all approach confusing moments like these in our lives.

This episode is perfect for anyone who is feeling like they want to know the “answers” to aspects of their lives, yet life is telling them it’s not yet time to know.




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  • I’ll tell you about why I have a feeling of disorientation.
  • I explain what the U-Curve Hypothesis is and how I’m experiencing the phases of it on this trip.
  • What the Honeymoon, Crisis, Adaptation, Recovery, and Adjustment stages reflect during cross-cultural adjustment.
  • Why I need to listen to my intuition (and less of the Ego) and stick to Adventure and Flow.
  • Why I don’t need to reach for the answers which cannot be given to me now.




The U-Curve Hyposisthese – Sverre Lysgaard

Letters to a Young Poet – Rainer Maria Rilke

Abraham Hicks








This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. Caitlin Timson

    That quote by Rainer Maria Rilke has been playing through my mind for the last month – it’s so funny and wonderful to hear that it’s been getting you through this season as well. Sending you so much love and know that I’m right there with you. <3

  2. These words and this episode are wonderful and the timing is so perfect. Thank you for being so honest and for sharing your own discovery journey. It”s wonderful to follow your adventures! Obrigado 😉

  3. I really appreciated this episode, Jess. Thank you for being so honest and sharing your ups and downs. I moved to Italy a year ago and can totally relate to the honey moon period and all that follows. It is challenging and like you said, it doesn’t feel totally right in the US or Europe, but your insight on this is really perfect and helps me, because it’s still a challenge for me! Thanks again! And please do a meet-up in Florence! <3

  4. Brandon

    Jess this is great timing, I am struggling with my business. I am in the bottom of the U. I have definitely gotten past the honey moon phase of starting the business building the site, and working towards those first subscribers. Then you hit that wall. Where you don’t really know what the next step is or you start to doubt that you are in the right market or niche. I get to a point where I doubt my abilities and if I am on the right course.
    I greatly appreciate this in this moment. My girlfriend tells me all the time to enjoy the process and the process is the part that in the end we reflect on and remember. It is sometimes so difficult to do, especially if you are driven by end results. I am glade to hear that there is an upswing. Continue to work the process, keep doing what you are doing, put your questions out into the universe and the answers will show themselves
    I also want to say that I think it is brilliant and we all appreciate you sharing your struggles with us. We see you living this dream and traveling and running this fantastic business that sometimes it seems unbelievable that we can do this or that we are capable. It helps to know that we are not alone and that even successful individuals still hit those lulls.
    Thank you for the words and the motivation!!!

  5. Lindsay Metcalf

    This is something that I needed to hear at a point of transition. Thank you so much.

  6. Phaedra

    Hi, Jess! I have been so enjoying your podcasts and blogs! Glad you are having a great adventure! We live in Stuttgart and if you would like to visit Germany while you are traveling, let me know. We are Americans stationed here and would be so happy to host you.

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