DESIGN YOUR LIFE: tristan of blah, blah, blahg

First, I’d like to take a moment and say thank you to everyone who sent me comments and emails about your favorite things to read on MML. I honestly had no idea so many people were into the business! I am definitely going to make that a bigger focus going forward. The only tricky thing with this direction is that I like to have a firm understanding of the advice and experience I share with you here on the blog. Which usually means living with the process and seeing what I learn from it. And since so much of what I’ve been doing lately is completely new to me, I’m not sure what to share – everything seems like a work in progress. But I’m going to do my best to continue to offer advice and share my story a bit closer to “real time.”

And now for today’s DESIGN YOUR LIFE! I’m happy to say that I’ve got Tristan (aka “Miss B”) from Blah, Blah, Blahg here to share her intentions for her life. If you haven’t seen Tristan’s blog, you are missing out on great writing, photos, and absolutely adorable animal photos. Oh, and she is also a co-mastermind behind behind the big huge hit, The Bright Side Project. If you aren’t familiar with BSP, it’s time to hop on over and start commenting to win some seriously amazing giveaways. As for her intentions, I think she’s the first DYL interviewees to talk directly about being kind to herself, what a great intention to have right at the top of the list.


DESIGN YOUR LIFE: Tristan of Blah, Blah, Blahg

Be Kind to Yourself.

I know that sounds a little ‘airy fairy’, but as a person that is completely Type A, I can be very critical of myself,.  I would NEVER be as judgmental about another person as I can be with me.  I once emphatically denied being a perfectionist by stating, “I am not a perfectionist, I can never get anything perfect.” Yes, I am a little tough on myself . As I get older I realize that being kinder to myself will result in my becoming the best person I can be not just for myself but others.   Be kind to yourself, give yourself a break revel in  your accomplishments (no matter how minute) you will find being nice to you makes the world think you are 8lbs thinner and ten times smarter than you are.  Okay, I may have made that last part up but try it you never know you may like the new you.


There are people that will consistently tell you that if you don’t focus on ONE thing or you won’t get anywhere.  That’s just crazy talk.  If you were investing in the stock market you wouldn’t put your life savings on one company you would diversify.  It’s okay to have many interests and passions. Hone in on the ones you want to try to utilize to make a living with and keep the others for your hobby or just plain fun. I would consider myself successful and I have tried many interests for both career + creative outlets. I have had success in diverse careers such as a public relations Jedi, jewelry designer, parfmeur, designer, blogger and branding maven. If you truly love something pursue it, it may lead you to another avenue you may have never considered or you may just find that you love it but don’t want to spend your life doing it as work. For the record I intend on diversifying until I have no more energy/life in me.  I would love to add professional photographer, gig poster artist, miniature animal farmer, wife and mommy (amongst many others) to my list of things I want to do when I grow up.

Never Stop Being Delighted.

I started my Souvenir Foto School with the intention of getting my students in the habit of seeing the ‘extraordinary in the ordinary’. No longer would they pass by a wall, tree, person, etc and be oblivious, they would see a moment, an opportunity, beauty that previously was hidden.  I truly believe that life is beautiful and I try to revel in what others would consider mundane. It makes me feel rich and special that I can appreciate more than most, but the best part?  Anyone can develop the skill of being delighted and it’s free!  Next time you are having a bad day/life concentrate on all the things that are wonderful about your moment–Can you see? Hear? Feel?  Already you are ahead of the game.

Be Curious.

I feel like curiosity should be one of the five senses. Without it I might as well just pack up my bags and call it a day. I promise you if you maintain your curiosity, your life will be filled with wonder + magic.   I am constantly asking questions, reading, learning and trying new things.  I feel like having this insatiable curiosity works better than a strong espresso for getting me up in the morning.  Try it, you won’t be disappointed.  Money back guaranteed.

Thank you for this opportunity to share, (sharing is caring after all). If you wondering, yes I I think you are the bee’s knee’s and the best thing to come along since graph paper and French fries.

Check out past DESIGN YOUR LIFE interviews.

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  1. Jean P.

    Miss B. is a gem, a jewel. All must follow her at Blah Blah Blahg because from her you will learn the meaning of friendship, of self-assessment, of childlike fun. She’s a doll, and everyone should pick her for a team…any team. She’s one of my faves!

  2. debbie

    preach on jean p. {from comment above}! so true.. i have always been a silent stalker {err, reader} of blah, blah, blahg and BSP.. i grab my morning coffee and start my day with my daily dose of miss b… her postings are always humorous, inspirational, and just plain real. love it.. love her. i’d pick her for my team any day too!

  3. Kim

    I’m going to start following the Blahg too – it looks very pretty and inspiring! I love these Design Your Life features – they always have great advice, and most of it is backed on simple ideas, but one’s that most of us wouldn’t really think about. Keep it up! 🙂

  4. Carina

    This is one of my fave “design your life” ever. Especially the paragraph on diversifying. Thanks for posting!

  5. I never failed to be inspired by these posts. I love her statement “I am not a perfectionist, I can never get anything perfect.” because that really sums up how I think about myself most of the time. I am my own worst critic for sure and boy is that a hard habit to break. I also love how she encourages everyone to stay delighted because one of my favorite things about life is seeing the beauty in every day things that most people don’t even see – a squirrel running through the grass, the way a branch bends out from a tree, a really beautiful cloud formation. Gah I just love nature. 🙂 Thanks again for these reminders!

  6. What a wonderful story. I love her thoughts on diversifying and being kind to yourself. Thanks for sharing more about this lovely lady!

  7. Hi MissB
    Your thoughts make me think of keeping a “beginners mind” -being curious & not expecting to be perfect. Good stuff!!

  8. Ling

    Hi!I’ve just recently followed MML and I gotta say DYL is my favorite part of the blog (I’ve already read all DYL’s like 3-4 times!hehe). I’m 23, and at the point in my life where I realise that, “is this ALL?” It’s definitely not all. I’ll keep on searching hi and lo and hopefully by incorporating all these intentions into my own lifestyle, it’ll help me figure out my path. Thank you for being such a generous lady!

  9. First time visitor/commenter who arrived here via the very fabulous Miss B. I love your three intentions Tristan. Over the last few months, working with you I’ve found you nothing else than completely inspiring. As a Type A myself, your words have touched me.
    Thanks for the insight!

  10. rose

    perfecto – i knew there was a reason i made some space on my google reader. going to add bbg now – curiosity is my favourite!x

  11. Eileen

    Ahhh, Miss B!! This is why I love you so! 🙂 I love your diversify section! I was beginning to think I had to do away with certain artist endeavors in the name of sticking to a niche, but now I feel re-energized! Thank you!!

  12. lou

    i’m a huge fan of both blogs. the blahg was one of the first blogs i’ve ever followed and i’m hooked ever since. she is just such a wonderful inspiring woman.

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