it’s not over yet

Lately I’ve been sensing in myself and others, especially online, that there is a feeling of urgency to be successful. Now more than ever it is awe inspiring to see the shooting stars of the internet world have great success in what they do. It’s amazing to see the big corporations start to reward these bloggers with attention, features, and sometimes a bunch of loot. And some people are seeing corporate level paychecks from their passion projects. While others are getting dozens and sometimes hundreds of comments.

The internet is gaining steam and many of us want to be on that train to huge success right this instant.

So we are leaning in, pushing ourselves, and trying to break into that special spotlight that casts its light on the “big” people of the internet.

But in most cases we are all striving for levels we have yet to achieve and it can be disheartening over time to feel like despite all of our efforts, we just can’t quite get there.

We haven’t made it yet.

But that doesn’t mean that all hope is lost. One thing I continue to remind myself comes from Gary Vaynerchuk. He is always quick to point out two things: how young the internet is and how much longer we are going to be working in our lifetime.

He always has his eye on the much bigger picture, he feels like a kid at 36 with so much left to give and with so much room to grow. While here I am at 27 feeling exasperated thinking that after 13 years of business and three years of blogging I’m still not “where I want to be yet.”

His paradigm on life always gives me a reality check when I’m feeling frustrated. And I think this is something many of us can keep in mind for our web efforts or life intentions.

With any luck, we are going to be adding value in our lives, possibly here on the internet, for a very long time. So perhaps we need to sometimes take a chill pill when it comes to the grasping and “now now now” mentality. The internet moves so quickly with tools like Facebook and it’s easy to think that our success needs to come at the same pace as our Twitter feed.

But that’s not the case. We just need to remember to just keep going and pace ourselves for the long haul. If we really are in this for the foreseeable future, there is no need to stress over where we are today. There is plenty of room for us to get “there.”

As Tony of P90X likes to say, “just do your best and forget the rest.”

This Post Has 31 Comments

  1. Anni

    Yes yes yes. I was just talking with a friend about this — how the blogging world, or online world in general, seems to have a pre-set definition of “success” that really only describes a small subset of bloggers. For the rest of us, we really have to figure out what we want from our internet presence. Really, we need to define our own success and goals.

  2. Oh My Goodness! Girl yes. This is so where I am at. It seems like everyone else is SO much farther ahead than where I am and trying to keep up with “the movements”. It can get really overwhelming and frustrating as you’re trying to find your voice. But, I will be taking one big dose of a chill pill pronto and just keep moving….Thanks for this post!

  3. i have a great quote by Susan Brinson hanging up by my desk,
    “Don’t over commit. Growth too quickly will hold you back from executing your original idea well.”
    and i think about it often, because so much of our society is based on instant gratification. but if we steady ourselves and continue to be passionate, then the results will speak for themselves, even if it doesn’t happen instantly. great post!

  4. Ohhh girl this really hit home. I just posted about why people blog on Monday and it’s so good to read this. While I’m not looking for massive success through my little blog, the pressure to keep up with those who are striving for such does catch up to the best of us. A little perspective goes a long way when it comes to this beautiful thing we call the internet.

  5. SUCH a fantastic post – and so, so true! I am definitely guilty of being impatient with success, and far too often judge my daily accomplishments against those of others. Great reminder to keep things in perspective.

  6. Somehow everything you post seems to always come to me at just the right time. Just as I was feeling I need to get my business plan done faster, you put things in perspective for me. Thanks so much for the reminder and for always bringing great insight forth on your blog!!!

  7. Sarah

    Amen, Jess! This post couldn’t have come at a better time. I am part of a business building group and we all expressed a similar sentiment just last night — all forging forward, all wanting success and wanting it now. So excited, Jess, to pass this along to them. I think it will be a very powerful reminder. Thank you so much for your wonderful words!

  8. I am a pretty new follower of your blog and I just need to tell you how much I admire your writing! You are very honest and open with your readers and I find that rare in many of the other blogs I follow. I hope your honesty is spread around and appreciated by others!

  9. Erin

    This post is very timely, thank you. I recently started a new blog and keep thinking “Why isn’t anyone commenting? Why doesn’t anyone like it on Facebook? Where are all the readers??” But then I have to remember to take a step back and think it takes years for those things to happen and they may never happen at all.

    So, thanks.

  10. Margie

    The sign on the wall at JimmyJohns today while I was eating my lunch read, “the gap between more and enough never changes.” that is so true. We always change the yardstick by which we measure our success, keeping it just out of reach.

  11. looks like enough is never enough for us humans! I can’t believe you said “you are not where you want to be..” I am sure many of us see you as one of those who have made it.. Found your passion, have a beautiful business, help people achieving their business dreams, help people with their personal passion-frustrations, pretty girl, appeared on nate berkus show, balanced life, a boyfriend… and only 27!? You have nothing but to be grateful of all of that many or most of us would like! Even if you didn’t grow anymore, your life as it is right now is an example at least for me.. thanks for your daily inspiration Jess

  12. Laura

    Thanks for the good reminder! As a new blogger I feel pressure to make the blog successful – but its a nice reminder that success is relative and takes time. I will say, however, that I think you should give yourself a little more credit… I love your business, your blog, and your self-motivation! I’d say you’re a huge success in your own right 🙂

  13. This is such a great reality check and one I need to hear at this moment! You hit the nail right on the head! Perfectly written… thank you.

  14. Thank you for this! I’ve really been noticing this lately too. I get so many inquiries from 20-somethings wanting to start a biz but wanting it NOW — I have been trying to convey the idea that it hasn’t always been this way, and that it’s important to invest in your brand and your company, as it should have a long life and it will be YOUR life 24/7 — you gotta absolutely love it. It really makes me sad that in this fast-paced “gotta have it now or you’re missing the boat” world, quality falls by the wayside. :o(

  15. This is such an inspiring post, and describes exactly what I have been feeling. Thank you. Of course, actually following your advice is easier said than done, but I really need to take a step back and slow down a bit… far to stressed/high-strung/focused these days… sometimes I feel as though I will spontaneously combust.

  16. This is such a great reminder. I’ve been blogging for several months now and love it but find myself getting frustrated that it hasn’t grown as much as others. Then I stop and think, who cares? I mean, I do care, but I shouldn’t let it bother me. I continuously remind myself to keep going because I enjoy it. Period. Comparing myself and my success to others is useless. Thank you for this post!

  17. this is seriously what I needed.
    I have been having a hard time lately because my traffic on my blog has rapidly decreased because I didn’t have the time to go and comment on other blogs like I used to continuously.
    And today, I have gotten probably the lowest comments I’ve ever gotten since starting, and it’s embarrassing. I can’t help but beat myself up over it. But then I think about how stupid that is.
    Anyway, this post just really hit home for me. Thank you.

  18. oh my dear, this was such a wonderful and much needed post. i have a teeny tiny blog,that i started just for fun, and sometimes it’s hard to see these bloggers do giveaway after giveaway and get tons of followers and comments! sometimes there’s that (imagined) pressure thinking that i need to do the same – forgetting that the blog is just supposed to be a fun thing to document my life! thanks for posting this, i really appreciate it 🙂

  19. This is an awesome post, great thoughts and very well written.
    And I have to say, I love the P90X reference haha! (I see Tony twice a week 😉 )

  20. Simone

    Thanks for posting this. This was exactly the kind of reminder I needed today!

    Have a great weekend 🙂

  21. yes yes yes! this is just what i needed to read, and is also so much of what i’ve been thinking about lately. i’m a new reader, and i will definitely be reading more of your blog! 🙂

  22. Melissa

    I also read the article that Diane posted above… this post and that article have been on my mind A LOT lately. Thank you for helping me see that we all struggle with wanting success right now and sometimes feeling “behind” everyone else.

  23. Great article, and I can totally relate… as a self-diagnosed Type A, I am currently blogging, training for a marathon, studying for the GMAT, and maintaining a day job!! I totally needed this article today. Slowing down is tough for me. Thanks!

  24. such a great post! and i love gary vaynerchuk – he came to speak at american university a couple of times while i was a grad student. wish i could bottle his energy!!

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