TLS #114: Making New Friends, My New Budget, Self Care Tips & Thoughts on Eating Dairy + Gluten Free


Today I’m answering a plethora of listener questions shared on Instagram.

We’re covering a huge array of topics including the gluten + dairy free lifestyle, making new friends (and letting go of other friendships), dealing with family and friend reactions to my non-traditional career/relationship/life choices, podcasting tips, and much more.

This episode is perfect for anyone looking to hear me share openly on a wide array of life, career, and relationship topics. 








  • The best self-care tips you can possibly share.
  • If you had to choose your last (ultimate) meal, what would it be??

  • I would love to know your Top 3 Tips for new podcasters that you wish you would have known when you started!!

  • Do you have any tips for sharing/creating values based intentions with a significant other who is resistant to the idea?

  •  What routines do you find crucial to live a balanced life?

  • What are your favorite gluten and dairy free meals? 

  • What internal doubts or resistance do you currently face?

  • What podcasts do you listen to?

  • How you created your wardrobe as I know you’ve talked about owning less and capsule wardrobes before!

  • Can you talk more about the gluten free diet? I did that this autumn myself, and felt SO much better. And are you afraid of “becoming intolerant”?

  • You have moved around in the last few years – do you have any advice on making meaningful friendships in a new community? On another note: Have you ever stopped investing in friendships that were not supporting your Values? If so, how did you approach the process?

  • How did your friends and family react to your choice to develop lifestyle and values based businesses rather than working the traditional 9-5??

  • I wonder how you’ve dealt with fear (if there was any) surrounding your divorce. Fear of not finding someone who meets your expectations, fear of loneliness, fear of the reactions from friends/family, financial fears of being a single homeowner now, etc.

  •  Your episode on conscious uncoupling was so brave and true. I’m also wondering what, if anything, gave you that final push to make the decision? What made you feel that it was the right decision for your future?

  •  How do you find it in yourself to be and remain so open and honest about yourself to your audience?

  •  I’d like to know your routine: from taking care of yourself, to taking care of the house (i.e. cleaning, etc.), or anything else that you do to maintain your life (i.e. anything BESIDES work). 

  • What is your plan for dealing with the loss of income a spouse adds to a household? How are you using the value based intention approach to make those hard decisions/cuts?

  •  About this time last year you hit a bit of a wall and took a short break from the podcast. I am curious what is different now. What is more balanced, smoother, or easier? Because it does seem as though things have been better for you since then – calmer maybe – and yet you are still working hard.

  • You have been self-employed your entire career. What did you do to make ends meet if months were slow or to pick up sales when you were just starting. Did you have to work any odd jobs or side gigs?




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This Post Has 10 Comments

  1. Katie

    I am loving today’s show. (I’ll listen to the rest when I get back in the car later.) I am really enjoying your on going discussion around the practice of “pleasure” vs. “self care.” I very much agree and it’s been a helpful shift in perception. Thank you. FYI I included your show in my recommendations in my most recent blog for The Huffington Post. Here is a link if you are interested. Thanks for doing what you are doing. Please keep doing it, it’s making a beautiful impact on the world.

  2. Kristina

    Loved today’s show! I think Tuesdays shows might become my new favorite. Favorite question was about the house keeping and I absolutely loved your answer. I strongly dislike grocery shopping and cooking, even though I could bake my way through life, and always feel a little guilty about that. Please do share once your experiment is over on how you found help in these areas. Have a wonderful day 🙂

  3. Allison

    Ironically, I found your show around the same time I moved to Ann Arbor (in the fall… so I’m still quite a newbie!) Such great content and always so thought-provoking and positive. I missed your last meet-up, and hope you have one again soon. Would love to meet you and other like-minded people in the area! 🙂

    1. Jess Lively

      Hi, Allison! Happy to hear you are enjoying A2 – if you happen to ever spot me downtown, please say hello so I can give you a hug. : )

      No plans to host another meet up locally… but if I ever do I’ll be sure to share the deets in email/podcast. : )

  4. Le Genou de Claire

    The whole gluten-free/dairy-free diet: it is not a “whoo-whoo” connection between what you eat v.s. what you feel. For e.g. the majority of serotonin (one of neurotransmitters that are responsible for mood, one of the “target” of major anti-depressant drug class out there, i.e. SSRI — Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor, like prozac, zoloft, etc.) is produced from the GUT, not in the brain. What you eat does affect the amount of neurotransmitters and the KIND being produced at any given moment. For those who are interested, read “Super Gene” book by Chopra/Tanzi — it can be technical at times, but it puts on layman’s term how now science is catching up to what many have suspected for a long time: that you can affect the functioning of your body in physical level (not just via some-mysterious connection).

    I am not doing gluten/dairy-free diet consciously, but I’ve been able to eliminate most of those (or eat a stretch of days/weeks without ever touching gluten/dairy) by adopting Asian (Chinese/Japanese/Korean/Indian) diet/food. If one wants to eliminate 100%, beware that soy sauce, e.g. is not 100% gluten free, but there are gluten-free soy sauce/tamari. It is not impossible but the more gluten/dairy friendly diet that one can probably get. A bonus: I always eat good stuffs and never get bored :-). And no, they are not complicated to master/cook, either! (There are always things that are complicated to cook, but majority of things I cook are not complicated).

    1. Jess Lively

      Thank you so much for sharing this fascinating research about this – so cool to know it’s not as woo-woo as it seemed at first glance. : )

  5. Gina Palha

    Hehe! I’m here and you responded. Thank you 😉
    Pleasure (instead of self-care) seems so perfect. Small changes can, indeed, make big shifts on how we see things. Thank you 😉

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