Good morning! First, I’d like to thank you so much for all of your tremendous support last week with the Soc Chic giveaway. Across all nine giveaways we had over 2,116 comments submitted to win the necklaces. Incredible!
My intention here on MML this week is to share the “tough stuff” I’ve been alluding to the past few months. I’m ready to get everything out in the open so I can move on feeling understood and completely authentic. Over the past few weeks, I’ve felt the time has come to update you all in the most non “Live Journal” or emo way possible. The goal is to share the lessons I’ve learned so that I might help others in similar situations.
The Evolution of My Relationship
Though Erwin and I have a healthy, loving relationship, we have decided that we are going to get separate apartments at the end of our lease in September – and evolve the relationship to friendship. Until that point, we are continuing to stay in the relationship and enjoy the time we have together.
As you may know, Erwin and I have been together since the last semester of college, which was three and a half years ago. We both graduated from the University of Michigan in 2007 and moved to Chicago that fall. We have lived together for our entire post-college lives. His humor, laid-back nature, and kind spirit have been incredibly powerful in my life. During the most difficult parts of growing my business full-time after graduation, he was a constant support. And at the core of our relationship, we have a deep love and friendship that has helped us navigate the many transitions from school to career.
This conclusion to split up has come to us slowly over the past eight months. And I’ve grown immensely during the process both spiritually and emotionally. (Remember the No Complaint String, Happy For No Reason, and ego vs. spirit? Yep, they are all lessons I’ve learned from this experience.) We are finding ourselves at different points in our lives and feel it is best to take time to be on our own, to grow independently, and to see what life has in store for us around the corner.
I feel incredibly blessed, excited, and thankful that I have been able to create such a personally fulfilling balance between the Jess LC and my mission: helping people design a life with intention. In fact, your support and encouragement here on MML has given me courage and a sense of purposeful satisfaction that I feel lucky to have at this point in my life. So though I don’t know what my life will be like after September, I know great opportunities will come and I have nothing to fear.
And though it initially broke my heart to imagine a life without Erwin as my boyfriend, I know, deep in my spirit, that this evolution is best for us both. Since we are parting on such peaceful terms, we intend to stay friends and support one another in the future. Admittedly my ego has fears that this might not be possible. However I also remember that given time, and how well we’ve navigated this decision to this point, it seems completely within our grasp. We are not parting for any short-term satisfaction, but rather for our long-term best interests.
Tomorrow I’ll be back to share the life lessons I’ve learned from this relationship evolution. In the meantime, thanks for listening.