my december intentions

For the past two days I have been a bit MIA here on MML due to a migraine. In fact, over the past few weeks I also feel like I’ve been a bit less “me” on MML. And I am deeply sorry for this.

As I have mentioned, I am in the process of switching contractors for our bags in Chicago and the new level of business quite honestly overwhelms me and I have felt uncharacteristically timid about the process. I’m in deeper waters than ever before and when I feel the worries and doubts creep in, I tend to hunker down. I close myself off from friends, new opportunities, and I have less energy to pour into MML. This is hard stuff. I don’t have the answers and my faith is being stretched to a new level.

But you know what helps? Knowing that I can do hard things.

That helps, and the fact that the new steps I take with Jess LC increase my experience and advice for my Business with Intention clients. In fact, the Business with Intention client consults I have have had in November have been the highlight of my work life this month.

So today I’m drawing from my excitement in the consulting to help myself get out of my stress rut and get back in the saddle here on MML.

Though I haven’t shared my personal intentions much at all this year (except for a million that I created over the summer which resulted in a huge burnout), I am slowly getting back in the swing of things by sharing two meaningful and attainable intentions I am making for December.

As usual, my intentions are general, but the way that I then use them to design my life and time this month are specific.

This holiday season will be the second I have spent with Mr. Lively. Last year we began dating in late November, just before Thanksgiving. So we did a few couple holiday things together, but nothing too major. Which makes me excited to further develop our own traditions this year.

As you can see above, Mr. Lively helped me last night with the preparation of our stockings. I planned at first to buy them at Home Goods, but the selection was disappointing. So instead of buying, we are creating our stockings out of an Anthropologie table cloth that I have had for several years that has no great use due to it’s awkward size. Since I don’t have a sewing machine, I am doing them by hand. Which is turning out to be a relaxing project to do while watching tv or listening to Christmas music.

I am also going to prepare a “Christmas Day” for Mr. Lively as well. “Christmas Day” was established last year as a day other than December 25th, in which I devised a full day’s worth of activities that Mr. Lively would like. On “Christmas Day” it’s all about him (and don’t worry about me, I have “Valentine’s Day”). Last year we went to the Bongo Room for brunch, visited the Science and Industry Museum, strolled through the Lincoln Park Conservatory and checked out their train exhibit, ate treats at Molly’s Cupcakes, and watched Garden State while drinking a Belgian Triple. This year I am going to have to think up a new itinerary (but I can’t share it right now as Mr. Lively may be reading this).

Our other main tradition that we’d like to make is getting a Christmas tree! I have not had a real Christmas tree since I was a little kid and I’m very excited for Mr. Lively to take me out tonight and pick one out. As you can imagine, I have already been pre-decorating it in my head. My intention is to do large and small white lights, tinsel, and my childhood ornaments my mom has given me. I’ll be sure to share it here on MML once it’s complete.

Beyond these traditions, Susie, Melissa, Mr. Lively and I will be having a Jess LC holiday party, too. Wine, carbs, sugar, and The Nightmare Before Christmas may be in the cards.

Beyond the Christmas traditions I am also looking to add more reading and reflecting into my schedule. To be honest I have slipped a little on my Email Intervention. Though I still don’t check emails on nights/weekends 99% of the time, I have gotten into the habit of checking my email within about 15 minutes of waking up on weekdays.

I have noticed that this habit has at times increased my anxiety a bit in the mornings as my mind focuses on the tasks at hand for Jess LC while I get dressed or eat breakfast. So instead of checking my email first thing, my intention is to pick up a book. By nature, I tend to read spiritual books or other positive non-fiction. And reading these books in the morning help me set my mind on positive things that I can do daily to be my best self.

I also intend to take time to reflect on my little couch in my bedroom in the morning. I find that I tend to take a lot of blessings in my life for granted when I don’t take the time to sit down and focus my attention on being calm and peaceful. So my intention is to focus as early on in the day as possible on gratitude.

So how about you? Any December intentions in mind?

This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Emma

    I love the traditions you are creating with Mr. Lively. Thank you so much for sharing your Christmas traditions.

  2. Helena

    I made a stocking by hand once (I had a really cute one from a store and my Jewish roommate wanted one, too, so I made her a similar one with a large Star of David where mine had a large Snowflake). I think it’s fun and relaxing to do things like that! I’m currently mending an old quilt my fiance’s great aunt made for him.

    Also, I’ve been reading on a Reader for awhile, so haven’t clicked through to your site but just did and I love the new picture of you on the right-hand side!

  3. Clara

    Jess- I love these traditions, especially the idea of taking a few moments each morning to reflect on all that you’re thankful for before starting the day. Sometimes I feel like I can be in a cranky mood the instant I wake up and there’s really no reason for that. I think this simple practice will really help. Thank you!

    Ps: The new pic of you is so cute!

  4. Nikki

    The idea of setting an intention is something I regularly do in yoga practice, but forget to do in normal life. This was a great reminder that I should try to do that more as I’m trying to live a more purposefully recently. Thanks!

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