Sorry for the lapse in posting yesterday. Over the past two days I’ve been caring for Mr. Lively as he got a (minor) surgery on Monday. I’m happy to report that he has recovered very well and will be back to 100% in the next few weeks.
This week I’ve also had a small epiphany and realized that I have something I need to work on personally. I have a tendency to let my focus center on external things like my relationship, work, or MML. And when I find myself to over-emphasizing one of these areas of my life, my happiness and perspective tends to fluctuate with what is happening in that area. Which then leads to a downward spiral of frustration and helplessness because none of those areas of my life are actually meant to be my life’s center.
Letting my well-being bounce with every new development those areas for too long leaves me sea-sick and powerless. My happiness really comes from within and through taking care of myself.
And the truth is, this is nothing ground breaking. Every self-help guru, life coach, and Oprah show says the same thing. There is even that airplane crash analogy with the oxygen mask.
We need to put ourselves first.
I get it.
But I struggle with this frequently nonetheless.
In an effort to keep my focus on my own well-being and power, I’m concentrating on having more Personal Time with myself (which I’ve abbreviated to PT).
For me, PT is about focusing on actions that I do strictly for myself each day that contribute to my overall happiness and self-care. I often forgo these actions when I’m focusing too much on other areas in my life.
Here is the list of PT activities that I intend to choose from daily:
- Preparing a smoothie or other healthy treat
- Reading from The Course in Miracles workbook
- Walking outside
- Lifting weights
- Reading magazines
- Bubble baths
- Listening to spiritual teachings
- Coloring books
My hope is that by making sure I do a few of these actions each day I will be able to regain my center and personal pro-activity.
How do you keep your focus centered?