october dos and don’ts for stress and worry

Post written by Kelsey of The Captial Barbie, photo credit

Hey there lovebugs! Welcome to Fall.  Thanks again to Jess for letting me bring you a monthly Dos and Don’ts list.

This month, I think MML readers have truly enjoyed Jess’ sincere posts about managing stress, bad days, and worry.  I’d like to use that theme for my list this month.  Remember you get to decide how you react to any situation.  Think about that the next time you feel overwhelmed, angry, or blissful.  It is just as important to reflect on the good times as it is the bad.  This list is about moods and situations and how we react to them.



  • Refuse the ‘air kiss’ and plant one on ’em if you are truly happy to see someone.
  • Do lay around and accomplish nothing on your day off.  It’s an off day for a reason.  You rock the rest of the week, let yourself relax for one day.
  • Do things that make you happy and harm no one, regardless that anyone else thinks its lame.
  • Make lists, charts, and anything else that helps you feel in control and on top of all of the wonderful things you are doing.  Don’t forget to make a trophy sheet for all of the things you’ve accomplished.
  • Remember that being social is great; but knowing how to sit with yourself is sometimes even better.


  • Allow jealousy to take over.  Yes we all have it.  Recognize, but treat it like a bad friend: civilly.  If you avoid it-it will creep back up, if you confront it, look it in the eye and say ‘yeah ok I’m jealous’ you will be amazed how much easier it is to handle the next time.
  • Worry.
  • Stress about what you’re going to be when you grow up.  No one really knows, and that’s the beauty of it.  Always reinvent yourself, always grow.
  • Let shame be in your vocabulary.  If you make a mistake, learn from it and offer ways you could have done it better.  There’s no shame in making a mistake at work or in a relationship: it’s called living.
  • Allow yourself to wallow for too long.  Feeling bad yourself is ok- everyone needs a night of Ben and Jerry’s and a spoon (no bowl).  But learning how to pull yourself out of the slump is a huge part of becoming an even better you.

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  1. Great post Kelsey. I’ve been working on the shame game myself.It’s a hard one to kick!

  2. Carol

    I’ve got a good handle on the positive, doing items, and relish when they really support my needs. More of a struggle for me is a combo of worry/shame in dealing with issues on behalf of my elderly father, and the stress factors of reinventing myself after job loss in midlife. Best thing going for me is to stay positive and be present, despite outside influences beyond my control.

  3. Jill

    I love this and needed this! Now, if you could just repost it for me to read every morning! (kidding… or maybe not!) 🙂

  4. Diane

    this post is fantastic. like some other commenters mentioned, i’m good with the do list. it’s the don’ts that create the issues. particularly worrying.

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